Sometimes there’s a conversation I know I need to have. I know it’ll be messy. Someone will cry, someone will yell – probably both.
The mere thought of this conversation paralyzes me. I imagine the worst case scenario, and dwell on it until it becomes the only possible outcome. With that fear filling my brain, I run away from it.
I say, “now’s not the time.” Or, “maybe it will get better on its own.” Or, the worst one, “I’m probably just overreacting.”
Soon I’ve talked myself out of needing to have the conversation at all.
Avoiding the conversation guarantees exactly one outcome – nothing will change. The problem will not solve itself and it won’t go away. Choosing to avoid the conversation is choosing to accept the problem.
It’s a choice I’m allowed to make, but it is still a choice, and the effects of that decision are on me. Remembering that makes me a little braver, and helps me do what I need to do.
I hope it helps you too.